Meaning
An obsessive and dangerous female, in pursuit
of a lover who has spurned her.
Origin
The expression
‘bunny boiler’ derives from the 1987 film Fatal Attraction,
written by James Dearden and Nicholas Meyer. The plot centres around Alex
Forrest (Glenn Close) obsessively pursuing her ex-lover Dan Gallagher (Michael
Douglas). The phrase comes from the plot device whereby Forrest, in a fit of
frenzied jealousy, boils her erstwhile lover’s daughter’s pet rabbit.
Gallagher’s suspicions should have become aroused earlier, when Forrest was
trying to persuade him to meet her, when she said “Bring the dog, I love
animals… I’m a great cook.”
At the time that the phrase first came into general
use it referred to someone unable to remain rational at the end of a romantic
relationship. Very quickly that usage became moderated and it came to be used,
often with some degree of irony, in much less extreme situations. Any needy,
possessive or even just mildly annoying woman is now liable to be described as
a ‘bunny boiler’.
The phrase is the modern equivalent of the
woman referred to in the expression ‘Hell has no fury like a woman scorned‘ which, in the competition for ‘best-known phrases
attributed to Shakespeare that were actually by someone else’, runs ‘music has charms to soothe the savage
breast‘ into a close second place. Both these phrases
were coined by William Congreve in 1697, in the play The
Mourning Bride. For reasons that I’ll leave others to explain, it
is only women who are thought to become unhinged by being what is now
graphically known as ‘being dumped’. There’s no male equivalent of ‘a women
scorned’ or a ‘bunny boiler’.
As ‘bunny boiler’ is a recent phrase with such
a clear source we are able to trace how it has found its way into popular use.
It wasn’t directly from the film, as the epithet isn’t used in the dialogue,
nor any of the advertising blurb used to promote it. As to who coined it,
that’s not clear, although it may well have been Glenn Close. The first use of
it in print is from an interview Close gave to the US magazine the Ladies’
Home Journal, reported in the Dallas Morning News on 6th December 1990:
“There’s nothing like portraying a
psychopathic bunny-boiler to boost one’s self-esteem, Glenn Close tells Ladies’
Home Journal.”
Popular phrases that have found their way into
the language since the emergence of the Internet appear first in online
discussion groups, blogs and online newspapers. The earliest large archive of
online colloquial messages is that of USENET groups, but Bunny
boiler isn’t found
there until 1994, nor does it appear more than once or twice in the archives of
US or British newspapers before that date.
If the phrase were a commercial product then
marketing people would say that it reached its target audience in 1994. It
certainly saw a sudden and widespread use from then onwards and is now a
commonly used phrase. Fatal Attraction was released in 1987 and Close
referred to the phrase in 1990. Newly coined terms appear to spread in the
community like viruses and, like flu viruses, they float around in the populace
until they reach a threshold of infected cases, above which they spread
rapidly. It appears that ‘bunny boiler’ got to that point sometime in 1994.
