People sometimes think there is a cookie-cutter type pattern for things like grief, depression, or disability. Or they try to have the Struggle Olympics (my xxx is worse than yours because xxx) But life doesn’t work that way. You do you in your own way and your own time.
This is so true, everyone of us is unique and has our own take on everything from the depth of a puddle to the easiest way to cross a river. Since no one knows your pain or happiness they should try to empathise with you or at least acknowledge your pain is yours alone.