I was single for a long long time after my divorce, and I loved it. Words cannot describe how much I loved singledom.

I work with people all day. My job requires me to be upbeat, social, focused and to listen intensely. So to be able to go home to my cats, tea, chocolate, a book, and silence (except for the sound of the tv or radio sometimes) was something I soaked up like a sponge. I could do what I wanted, when I wanted. I could recharge. It says a lot about the man I married that I gave up a life I loved to become a couple again.

More than half the households in Sweden are single households. So you would imagine that the society would be more geared towards singles. But in many cases, it isn’t.

Eating lunch alone is no problem. But if you eat dinner alone, you do stick out a bit, and the tables are usually not comfortable or well-situated.

Things in supermarkets are almost never portioned for singles. You have to buy a larger pack of something and then cook or freeze part of it for use later.

Life itself is more expensive because there is no one to share the household costs.

You pay a singles supplement on cruises, package holidays, and many hotel stays. So if you travel as a single, you pay more than if you travel with someone else.

And if you write singledom, the autocorrect does not like it. But coupledom is not seen as a spelling error.

Author: Janet Carr

Fashion, beauty and animal loving language consultant from South Africa living in Stockholm, Sweden.

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